Living Well Lifelong Learning
“Education is a lifelong journey whose destination expands as you travel.”
I had lunch last week with one of my favorite travel pals. Elaine had just returned from a cross country RV tour and had lots of interesting experiences to share with a fellow travel junkie. I love Elaine for a lot of reasons but I was especially grateful for her enlarging conversation this month at Seed to Sprout because dreary February was starting to sabotage my sunny psyche. Elaine was the perfect elixir on that dim day. Here are three things that brightened my day:
1. Creative minds energize one another. The day may have been dark, but she was bright with ideas for 2018. Hibernating this winter? Consider connecting with an interesting friend that you haven’t seen in awhile. I guarantee you’ll learn something new as you share your travel adventures.
2. Elaine conquered the Bisbee1000 Stair Climb in Arizona this past October during her cross country RV adventure. This 4.5 mile course includes nine staircases connected by winding roads and an interesting history in Tombstone Canyon, Arizona. Reserve your spot in 2018 on Oct 2 if you dare at www.Bisbee1000.org.
3. To balance our busy work lives, Elaine and I always compare notes on our yoga and wellness modalities. I shared some highlights from my recent yoga teaching assignment in Cabo San Lucas and invited her to my next yoga gig in Dominican Republic in March. She brought me up to speed on her long term success with rolfing which I admitted knowing too little about. Rolfing is a bit like having someone do yoga for you. In short, rolfing is all about structural alignment. Created by Dr Ida Rolf, an American biochemist, this system seeks to deeply manipulate and reorganize the connective tissue(known as the fascia) that permeates the entire body. Rolfing can be thought of as a cross between physical therapy and massage where the practicioner applies slow, deep stretching around the joints to lengthen tissue and free up the fascia so your body motors the way it was meant to move. It’s a great compliment to a yoga or pilates practice to support structural integration and a super movement therapy for pain relief. Learn more locally by asking for Rebekah at www.fromept.com. This husband and wife team have been sharing this healing modality for decades from their locations that include Manhattan, Montclair and now Asbury Park.
Elaine and I agreed to keep moving and grooving this winter and to always support one another’s lifelong learning goals tempered with trending travel tips far and wide. Learn more about Elaine’s adventures at www.NotJustADaydream.com.
DonnaLyn Giegerich MBA CIC RYT is resilient leader who is passionate about helping others improve their lives. Many know of Donnalyn through her summer-long Yoga on the Lake series, power panels or keynote speaking engagements.
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Lifeleaders and entrepreneurs are busy people. We talk fast, move fast, meet many people and usually prioritize helping other people achieve success. Everyone wins when rewarding connections are cultivated. But how do we respond when repeat requesters keep showing up to ask for more help, more hand-ups or more hand-outs? Here are a few tips to keep your connections and conversations constructive, courteous and collaborative:
1. Recognize that everyone’s time is valuable. Before “the ask”, consider querying “Is this a good time to talk?” before lunging into a long winded request that may take your counterpart off guard or interrupt their busy day. Consider framing your request in a way that values their time and gives them a choice to opt out. “I need X by tomorrow” can be more successfully softened by rephrasing the request to “Would you consider helping me with X goal?” or “Might you share your thoughts on how I could advocate for X goal?”. In this way, the recipient hears less demand and more respect and consideration for his/her time. “I need another favor(freebie)” or “When can we meet?(assuming they are available or interested) do little to cultivate a sense of reciprocal warmth and mutual sharing.
2. Manners still matter. No one generation destroyed refined communication skills. To the contrary, the established and emerging leaders I interact with are largely thoughtful and respectful of time and networking contacts. But, every now and then, an intruder keeps appearing with multiple, demanding requests that are worthy of a blogpost. The tendency to demand responses with an air of entitlement is perplexing and unfortunate. What is more helpful is a revisit in how we show up with our verbal, non verbal and written communication skills. When our dominant messaging skills are on target, our success soars! Please, thank you are still very much in vogue.
3. Standing out as an exceptional leader is easier than you think. A vendor shared two theatre tickets recently as a gift of appreciation for branding work done on her behalf. I agreed to the work and expected nothing additional in return. She, however, wanted to express gratitude in a meaningful way(I’m a theatre enthusiast) and made sure that two tickets found their way into my hands. Nice touch! Another client devoted some extra branded content for my company to show appreciation for an emcee effort that put more people in the seats at their local fundraising event. Win. Win.
4. Before you ask what an influencer can do for you, consider asking them what you can do for them. Sounds like a Kennedy countryman quote, right? Well, I’m happy to share that framing your request in the spirit of “others first” will connect you much more quickly to your goals. Being interested in another’s success before you pitch your own needs will usually land you faster and further along your trajectory of success. Good luck!
Yogi’s call it karma. Creatives remind us that “our vibe attracts our tribe.” Most would agree that everything is connected in business and in life. It’s important, therefore, to keep our energy engaging. Einstein once said, “Nothing happens until something moves!”This was a perfect reminder for a vibrant group of high performing realtors at a recent awards celebration at Baylor’s McLane Stadium. I was invited to speak about what’s trending in leadership resiliency for a room full of entrepreneurs that prioritize moving, momentum and the power of perseverance. A favorite book is The Biology of Belief by Dr. Bruce Lipton which provides the science to support the power of positive thinking. This cerebral read reminded me of the “expectancy effect” that I’ve known about for years as a manager of people and mentor to many. Also known as the “Pygmalion effect” after the mythical sculptor that magically brought creation to life, the theory underscores the importance of setting the bar high for achievement. There was no playing small for Pygmalian. When we let someone know that “we expect the best” from them in an encouraging way, they often rise to the occasion. It’s a subtle and effective way of saying “I know you can do this and I can’t wait to see you make it happen.” That’s a big morale boost for a sales professional trying to hit his/her numbers, a college grad trying to get a job or a seasoned professional making an industry change. It’s a powerful tool to help leaders develop self efficacy and/or career confidence.
So who are you raising the bar for these days? Or how are you asking for help to sharpen your saw currently? How effective have your efforts been over time? I’d love to hear about your experiences helping others become better versions of themselves. I suspect the reciprocal nature of karma will also be part of your experience…expected or not!
I’m not accustomed to stretch limosines transporting me to and from the airport as a conference keynoter. That said, it was a nice experience and a pleasant surprise upon arrival in Sin City. Vegas is over the top and so should its livery be too, right? Problem is, as a yogi and businessowner, I’m predisposed to practicing “less is more” and “is that overhead cost productive?” Limos are too big, too glammy and too flashy for my practical business bones and purposeful yoga practice. But, I went along for the ride, because traveling BIG for a change might be just the stretch assignment I needed. And, since stretch assignments are meant to be enlarging and often uncomfortable, I was in the perfect seat for some learning. Did I unconsciously manifest this moment? Yes and No.
No, I was not visualizing or vision boarding a stretch limo at this national keynote for insurance premium auditors. A limo was not in my speaking contract or on my business bucket list. When I’m speaker traveling, the usual pick up looks like a croweded shuttle, a taxi or an Uber experience worthy of a blogpost. But, in some ways, yes, I probably did manifest that limo because as a corporate consultant and keynoter, I am:
and genuinely interested in contributing to the success of a conference. I recognize there are a lot of moving parts, things change rapidly and that cultivating lasting relationships with event planners requires that I show up routing for event success as a participating team member. So when I’m coaching with clients that want to get the respect they deserve, the success they’ve earned and the life they want, I suggest they start by hailing a taxi or blogging about tips to travel humbly and helpfully. Their limos will all line up later!
Executive coaching is rewarding and regular when done well. Supporting a client in goal attainment takes time and focused committment from both parties. Mentoring can be just as meaningful without the heavy lifting of a formalized client/coach framework. Here are three ways that mentoring high potential leaders can be a boon for both parties:
The need for effective mentor/mentee relationships is growning. Mutual exchange across cultures, between generations and amongst industries will provide us all with opportunities to remain current and valuable contributors across the spectrum. Enjoy the process! Feel free to share your favorite mentor/mentee moments at DonnaLynSpeaks@gmail.com
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To view the full article, please visit Community Magazine: “Living Well Column, Community Magazine, February 2018”
The Monmouth County SPCA will be hosting its annual Valentine’s Brunch on Sunday, February 11, 2018 at Navesink Country Club in Middletown with DonnaLyn as Emcee. Our brunch is one of our most popular events, attracting more than 200 attendees. Proceeds from the brunch go directly to supporting MCSPCA programs that save thousands of abused and abandoned pets each year.
Our “Eat, Drink and Be Mine” Valentine’s day theme celebrates the love of a significant other, the devotion of cherished pets and the bond of friendships & family. We hope that you may consider donating an item for our chance or silent auction that is geared towards these special relationships in exchange for promotion at the event.
Originally Published in Living Well Magazine January 2018
I spent the holiday season being inspired. How about you? As we move into the month of resolutions and solutions to improve our lives, here are three things to consider:
1. Inspiration is everywhere. You don’t have to travel far to appreciate miracles and momentum. You do, however, have to show up well and be open to possibilities. So, how curious are you? When is the last time you asked someone to “tell me more” or “help me understand” before dismissing an idea as crazy, old school or impossible? Over the holidays, I read a memoir entitled Driving Miss Norma. The autobiography was about a feisty, wise woman and her family that creatively responded to a serious health challenge. Miss Norma’s response was “I’m ninety years old and I’m hitting the road!”. This inspirational book was enjoyed in front of the fireplace but ignited so many ideas on what is possible despite age and adversity. Miss Norma is a role model on how to live fully with gusto.
2. Inspiration is inclusive. While Miss Norma’s story was largely about her individual experience on the road, traveling with family made all the difference. I was inspired over the holidays by a community conference at Brookdale that celebrated Second Acts. For a closer look at some standout stories, check out www.encore.org and/or follow my speaking colleague @DonnaCardilloRN for more inspiring ways to craft your best year with family or friends. One takeaway was certain: Pulling back as we age is a disservice because we are more diverse in experience than ever before. So what are you creating in 2018 to showcase your talent and time?
3. Inspiration is intergenerational. I was in Minnesota recently presenting on leadership at a national conference for women in financial services. I almost didn’t arrive thanks to the flu that leveled me for three hours from Newark to Minneapolis. As I crawled off the plane, I marveled at the magnificence of the strangers that helped me land on my feet. My travel companion was a retired physician from Nigeria that helped me stay calm. Our middle aged flight attendant couldn’t have been more accommodating and the baby faced pilot helped me get off the plane. When I got to the shuttle service, a random millennial cancelled her transport to accompany me to my hotel before she pursued her path. Angels of all ages were a giant source of inspiration and a reminder that good people are everywhere.
So, whether your new year’s resolution is to reinvent, reconstruct or reimagine parts of your life, remember to take notice of the inspiration all around you. It’s there, waiting to be discovered and shared. Read a reframing book, attend an empowering conference or take a trip to meet new friends of all ages. Just skip the flu and live well!
DonnaLyn Giegerich MBA CIC RYT is the CEO/President of DLG Consulting, an integrated leadership training company that supports talent agility and skills development. Conference keynoter and executive coach, she delights in helping others develop resiliency and reinvention at www.DonnaLynSpeaks.com. SM @DonnaLynSpeaks IG@DonnaLynConsults